So…
I want to talk about boundaries…. This is something many of
us struggle with … some out of a desire to be liked.. others out of cultural or
family / social conditioning etc…
Point being.. we do live in a society and it is considered “
normal” to be able to play nicely with others.
Now this is fine unless like me you were born female in an Ancient
land ( which certainly DOES know better but it seems has chosen to exist in a
state of denial for quite some time ) . I do not want to make this about a male
/ female divide, nor do I want to make it solely about Geography because
ultimately disparity and disrespect are unfortunately everywhere.
Everyday I work with people all over the world who bend over
backwards, doing their utmost for those they love who end up drained and
unfulfilled.
Like it or not we live in a male dominated world.. things are
finally shifting but our conditioning, beliefs and value systems may take a
while to follow suit. Gen Xers Im talking to you!
Here’s a recent instance I want to cite from my own life..
which I hope will resonate and help those in need.
I was out for my morning run at my sacred space ( a park on
the water front ) near where I live. I always have headphones on and usually
wear sunglasses too to block out the physical realm and connect with the Divine
as much as possible. Ps- this is why I do not run on the road 😊!
Now while I was jogging an older gentleman (who has made it his
business to profer unsolicited advise repeatedly) stopped me for the second time .. Out of respect for his age more than anything else… I took my headphones off
and looked at him enquiringly…
He said “ You know you are walking right? ( insinuating that
my slow jog was not likely to help me burn calories)! “ Now a) Uncle clearly
considers himself a fitness expert because he’s pitching 70 and is still
running , may well be a sports person/ teacher but er is he my doctor? Does he
know my age, medical stats blah blah?
b) This SAME uncle has about a year ago.. advised me in the
same condescending tones not to try and race him… to walk ..!!
Last time I humored him.. this time I cut him off saying “ Thanks, I don’t
need it.!”
Now I HATE being rude to anyone much less an older person. I
was not raised that way.. in our culture we are taught to respect our elders or
were because I sure as hell don’t see that reflected in the current generation 😊(
and it must be said I'm NOT impressed)…
But to me it was important , nay essential. Why? Why you may
ask could I not have just smiled and shrugged it off? Humored him again?
Because its about respect its about boundaries its about
personal space ! If someone is well intentioned I will ALWAYS , always cut them
slack. But I am a high level empath and Psychic so of course I KNOW the truth…
And when I pick up a need for attention, when I pick up ego
fuelled behaviour…. I cannot NOT take a stand. Not just for me... I stand with women of all ages who came before and during my time.. who may have lived in fear and acquisience, who may have chosen to shrink themselves, think less of themselves.. believe they coudlnt or were LESS.. because of Misogyny like this.
Because I know that my doing so will indeed make that difference… Uncle will think twice
before he tries intimidating women (
most of whom he knows live in mortal dread of their weight and appearance and
so uses it against them to his advantage )…...
Yes regardless of his age, standing in society blah blah … I know I have that ability. So I use it wisely and discerningly despite
it going against my ingrained
conditioning…..
Ladies…. I do this mindfully for you…. Take heart, stay in
faith (& grace) but know your worth and stand firmly in your space. Do NOT
let anyone dictate to you , define you or disgrace you. Know your worth.
XO.
