Little Ms. Sunshine... may have a teeny problem... her rose colored glasses appear 2 have slipped &;; woe... so have many a mask...
For someone who has always only been able to see sunshine even through some pretty heavy clouds &;; rainbows even in typhoon weather...youd better believe this was a pretty harsh awakening. Ive always preferred 2 believe the best of people &; situations and hope I can continue to do so albeit with a slightly more realistic perspective. Im not perfect... but then I dont judge... I dont expect perfection from my friends ( no thats only from my man :)) but I do expect empathy @ the very least. And I do believe women need 2 build each other up not tear each other apart...
All I can say is I am done with leaving encounters with "friends" with a heavyness in my being... Betrayal wears many dresses.
Rest assured though..before you can say hidden agenda yours truly has boundaried up... but I thought it would be helpful... not 2 mention amusing... to highlight a few true blue "frenemy types" (remember award season shall shortly be upon us...)
How 2 spot em (hopefully a mile away) & avoid em like the plague...
Without further ado...
1) The "friend" who loved me : This one purports 2 adore you... shes always sooooooooo worried about you... on days when you are down and out... freaking out in worst case scenario land... she pounces and proceeds to outline each unhappy ending with an " Im so worried about you ..." thrown in 4 good measure... note this friend is no where to be seen in any other capacity .. so you can forget about counting on her to actually god forbid HELP out in your time of need... BIN.
2) The "friend" who judged me.. Oh there's quite a few of these floating about.. you know the type... eye rolls whilst you are mid sentence.. pointed close ended questions will be flung at u before u can even complete sentence no. 3... no point trying to explain anything.. the gavel has long pounded in this all knowing souls eyes... they have been there done that &;; know the outcome .. in fact its quite likely she believes u are just making stuff up for " attention"! So save ur breath and ur time...this type comes in several varieties... theres Ms. Married whos Mr you will fiind plays quite a significant role as juror... then theres Ms. Critical who gets to comment on how you look, dress, speak, eat, walk , talk... even work out... I know one such who will not shut up about my hair, work out choices.... has she got it right you ask? er.......
3) The "friend" who confused u with the couch ... This one believes you exist solely 2 be her shrink... she will get totally outraged should you ever express a desire to talk about yourself... to be fair she has the attention span of a gnat...buy her an atlas and be done with it. Small note of caution though... do get far away from her... once it dawns that the world doesnt actually revolve around her there will be consequences...
4) Even the club cant handle her now... Little Ms. I must be one up... not to be confused with the lady above... is solely about onewomanupship... many a time Ive been quite confounded to find my story hijacked and ...er "identified " with to the degree it is now about this (not so little) Madam...for eg me " such and such happened with this guy"... she .."oh it happened 2 me 2 .." me... " oh such and such happened @ work.." she.. " oh even I...." er... the temptation 2 claim I landed on Venus is high just 2 see how she matches that...
5) Dictator/ Diva... Her way or the high way... Good grief...I have lost my identity with this lady... Im simply required 2 don whatever hat she may require of the moment... driver, confidant, pupil... she decides & woe betide u express so much a peep much less an opinion... she will subject u 2 the rant of a lifetime...threaten u with small pox n lord knows what... www.tantrumsrus.com. Please note its not like she shines like a beacon of sucess & achievement.... but somwhere appears 2 have rationalised reality to the degree that she truly believes she " knows whats best 4 u...." RUN.
6) The Typical types... Ill bet the Titanic was sunk by similar sets of flapping lips... u know the kind? u tell her something in confidence... thats the easiest way 2 ensure it reverbrates (twice) round the block. All intoned in hushed whispers mind... use sparingly should you need 2 communicate something in a widespread fashion & only if u r on a budget...
7) Little Ms. anti social media... she stalks but she wont walk her talk... the one who has a dp from the (early 90s).. actively follows everything I ( & everyone else ) says or does but purports not to have any time 2 waste on social media... er...
In conclusion I must be fair here and (re) acknoweldge my own naivete ...in terms of recommended further course of action... I can only quote from my flying days ... ( & here I thought there was scarce intellectual value add 2 be gleaned 4rm that era...) we had particular terminology for garbage that needed instant removal... GASH!
For someone who has always only been able to see sunshine even through some pretty heavy clouds &;; rainbows even in typhoon weather...youd better believe this was a pretty harsh awakening. Ive always preferred 2 believe the best of people &; situations and hope I can continue to do so albeit with a slightly more realistic perspective. Im not perfect... but then I dont judge... I dont expect perfection from my friends ( no thats only from my man :)) but I do expect empathy @ the very least. And I do believe women need 2 build each other up not tear each other apart...
All I can say is I am done with leaving encounters with "friends" with a heavyness in my being... Betrayal wears many dresses.
Rest assured though..before you can say hidden agenda yours truly has boundaried up... but I thought it would be helpful... not 2 mention amusing... to highlight a few true blue "frenemy types" (remember award season shall shortly be upon us...)
How 2 spot em (hopefully a mile away) & avoid em like the plague...
Without further ado...
1) The "friend" who loved me : This one purports 2 adore you... shes always sooooooooo worried about you... on days when you are down and out... freaking out in worst case scenario land... she pounces and proceeds to outline each unhappy ending with an " Im so worried about you ..." thrown in 4 good measure... note this friend is no where to be seen in any other capacity .. so you can forget about counting on her to actually god forbid HELP out in your time of need... BIN.
2) The "friend" who judged me.. Oh there's quite a few of these floating about.. you know the type... eye rolls whilst you are mid sentence.. pointed close ended questions will be flung at u before u can even complete sentence no. 3... no point trying to explain anything.. the gavel has long pounded in this all knowing souls eyes... they have been there done that &;; know the outcome .. in fact its quite likely she believes u are just making stuff up for " attention"! So save ur breath and ur time...this type comes in several varieties... theres Ms. Married whos Mr you will fiind plays quite a significant role as juror... then theres Ms. Critical who gets to comment on how you look, dress, speak, eat, walk , talk... even work out... I know one such who will not shut up about my hair, work out choices.... has she got it right you ask? er.......
3) The "friend" who confused u with the couch ... This one believes you exist solely 2 be her shrink... she will get totally outraged should you ever express a desire to talk about yourself... to be fair she has the attention span of a gnat...buy her an atlas and be done with it. Small note of caution though... do get far away from her... once it dawns that the world doesnt actually revolve around her there will be consequences...
4) Even the club cant handle her now... Little Ms. I must be one up... not to be confused with the lady above... is solely about onewomanupship... many a time Ive been quite confounded to find my story hijacked and ...er "identified " with to the degree it is now about this (not so little) Madam...for eg me " such and such happened with this guy"... she .."oh it happened 2 me 2 .." me... " oh such and such happened @ work.." she.. " oh even I...." er... the temptation 2 claim I landed on Venus is high just 2 see how she matches that...
5) Dictator/ Diva... Her way or the high way... Good grief...I have lost my identity with this lady... Im simply required 2 don whatever hat she may require of the moment... driver, confidant, pupil... she decides & woe betide u express so much a peep much less an opinion... she will subject u 2 the rant of a lifetime...threaten u with small pox n lord knows what... www.tantrumsrus.com. Please note its not like she shines like a beacon of sucess & achievement.... but somwhere appears 2 have rationalised reality to the degree that she truly believes she " knows whats best 4 u...." RUN.
6) The Typical types... Ill bet the Titanic was sunk by similar sets of flapping lips... u know the kind? u tell her something in confidence... thats the easiest way 2 ensure it reverbrates (twice) round the block. All intoned in hushed whispers mind... use sparingly should you need 2 communicate something in a widespread fashion & only if u r on a budget...
7) Little Ms. anti social media... she stalks but she wont walk her talk... the one who has a dp from the (early 90s).. actively follows everything I ( & everyone else ) says or does but purports not to have any time 2 waste on social media... er...
In conclusion I must be fair here and (re) acknoweldge my own naivete ...in terms of recommended further course of action... I can only quote from my flying days ... ( & here I thought there was scarce intellectual value add 2 be gleaned 4rm that era...) we had particular terminology for garbage that needed instant removal... GASH!
