On a lighter note... I was @ Foodhall yesterday & noticed a very ladylike cultured accent threatening to block someone...I connected with that energy and noticed a well put together lady round my own age standing aimlessly with the freezer blasting cold air on here ranting into her phone in hushed tones... ranting continued on the floor above me where i observed her again... she was starting to develop a slightly hysterical air which i recognise all 2 well unfortunately (we've all been there no?) anyhooo i got done with my shopping and was waiting 4 my car outside... when Lo said Lady emerged minus her shopping enraged literally yelling into the phone clearly bordering on a nervous breakdown... I passed her enroute 2 my car and looked at her in concern, asked if she was ok , whether she needed help... she stretched her hand out , rolled her eyes at me and mouthed.... "HUSBANDS...!!!" from what I (& half the store overheard... clearly said husband was cheating... & clearly it wasnt anything new...!)
This got me thinking...
Here we are half of us yearning 2 find our significant other.. the rest struggling not to strangle him...ok no b4 all my male friends disown me 4 incessant feminist ranting let me just say the reverse is probably equally applicable... I'm astounded by how some women completely disregard their significant others...after recent experiences I will say I have personally revised my view on many things re relationships. I has this to say... if you do choose a long term commitment please know that you have to really really really love your partner in order 2 be able to deal with everything life will fling at you. Relationships are NOT a walk in the park and even a romantic like me got seriously dragged through da mud sufficiently this time round 2 acknowledge a few bitter home truths... I thank all da Gods that I genuinely loved my partner and hence could withstand some really turbulent weather.
There are no guarantees even then as I learned the very hard way... I bounced back from my shortlived marriage much quicker than this... but this I know for sure.
Please get to know each other very well before making said commitment (I don't care what age you are or what your circumstances maybe). I'm lucky enough to have parents who call marriage out for what it actually is and certainly never pressured or judged any of their kids & always held their doors open 4 us when we needed comfort , reassurance etc.
As for da wannabes? What can I say... go in with your eyes wide open darlin' no amount of diamonds , furs or cash gonna keep u warm @ night. Know that a commitment is a two way street and there's never any need 2 stay in anything that damages your self esteem, safety or most importantly your peace of mind. Stay woke, stay independent (no I dont care if you've been a stay at home mom & ur birds have now flown da nest... ) find your identity, stay focused on you. xo. Auntie Kim.
