Of Mice and Men...we r like this only...

This is too all you women out there... all you Indian women to be more precise..


The other day an extremely well placed(professional) buddy of mine shared an interesting reality. He said the largest no. of employees who were dismissed from overseas projects were men and the grounds for the same were sexual harassment.
He said his organisation was now creating tailor made "awareness" workshops to enlighten the poor souls as to what was acceptable behaviour and what to avoid..

The recent press coverage on airline crew being subjected to sexual harassment by aseemingly sucessful upright citizen barely raised eyebrows..

Being an ex flight attendant and now a fairly established professional in the corporate world I'd like to add my perspective..

Ladies this is a monster we have created... our Ladla betas go out into the world viewing it as their oyster and if a woman is attractive she has no place in the workplace except as a pleasant diversion...

Dont believe me? Lets talk about how difficult an ex flight attendant finds it to find a place in the corporate world... leave aside qualifications and capabilities?

But I digress (theres room for a whole seperate blog on that one) lets talk intstead about senior male employees in my current and last organistions.

One supposedly responsible capable financial controller who could only talk to a womans chest... had the temerity to approach me in broad daylight on numerous occasions and in front of his team asked me why i wasnt married...
my response to this after several moments of shock was to simply tell him to find me a man who deserved me.
Clearly undaunted he then asked me what was written on my tshirt and said he didnt want to read since I could accuse him of looking at my boobs!!!!!

Not being a shrinking violet when I took it up with the toddler on a tricylce (also unfortunately my boss) his response was a burst of disbelieving laughter and then "did you slap him?"

I know what your thinking I should've slapped both of them.. with legal notices... alas as a nation we are not quite there...


Ladies this is a global media network I'm talking about...

In another job in another time.. I was on business travel and under instruction to bond with my regional business heads , to my mind that meant dinner and a drink, to his another.. I'll spare you the gory details.. all I'll say is Indore is a pretty scary place to be if your a woman on her own at night...only my mind saved my honour... had I been a little younger I shudder to think of the consequences..

My then bosses first reaction: to burst into disbeliving laughter
and then "Why did you go have a drink with him in the first place?" Fortunately for me the accused, when probed burst into sobs and admitted all his crimes...
My md asked if i could find it in my heart to forgive him and allow him to keep his job... since he had a new born child.. I did just that...

Why am I writing this now? Because Im alarmed at the double standards... for every Indra Nyooi and Sonia Gandhi we have sickos who truly believes that divorcees are desperate women asking for it...

Trust me I have travelled and lived all over the world and have recieved far more respect from Arabs than I have from Indian men. I've been back in this country 5 years I chose to come back and take the good with the bad... but I have to say I'm astounded with the double standards and predjudice...I have witnessed and been subjected to.
If I try to take an objective stance (it's tough since I'm mstly so passionate about stuff) I'd say I dont hate men...far from it I have more male than female friends but I simply cannot understand the almost fatalistic explanations/warnings I get "Indian men are like this wonlllllllllly!"

Er NO! Whats the point of an education? of a career? of society evolving?
Its fair to say that I have had a far more liberal & cosmopolitan upbringing since I come from a mixed race family... however I' still very Indian and Im struggling with this whole : my mother/ daughter/ sisters are saints to be worshipped and protected (at intervals you understand?) its those other women who dont belong to my skin colour/ race/ religion/ beliefs who are easy targets....
Moms, sisters, daughters listen up...have you not played a contributing role raising your eyebrows at your sons girlfriends/ wives? particularly if they are not of your race/ religion/ economic or social background?
Are you judging her because shes dresses inappropriately (differently from you? Speaks inappropriately (differently from you?) etc etc..
Aren'tyou forgetting she is still a woman?

You want to preserve your culture you say? Then stick to saas bahu serials... why are you educating your children further? phoren trips? stop em at once! As for phoren education... good grief women what are you thinking?

Is that western make up you wear? jewellery? bags? shoes? clothes? What is that a cosmo in your hand? (the magazine, the drink in public is a no no I know)..what you want to run the family business? No you cant its against our beliefs/ traditions..

If you cant take the heat sister stay out of the kitchen...