Lovin & Livin.... Later.

So I met yet another Mr. Could be right... most boxes ticked & we got talking...the sheer sweetness of silly late night phonecalls got me thinking ...back to times of yore... that same sweet feeling... the connect ,the promise/ possibility of fulfilment ... could your dreams be coming true?
& yet it was (harsh bump 2 reality accompanied by loud clanging noise for effect ) different.

Thats when it hit me...& got me thinking of all the ways relationships differ from our younger days.

We are older but are we really wiser? Does it make sense to cling on to past fears and baggage? Will the past necessarily repeat? Is everyone the same?

Hes thinking ok so I wont reveal too much of myself till Im sure of her... Im thinking how will I ever know you if you wont let me? How will love survive if you dont give it a fair chance? Is it right to project my past fears on to this person? Just because men in the past have behaved a certain way is it necessary he will too?

Ditto for me. When I look at it rationally I'm not very likely to behave/ react the way his ex girlfriends/ wife has. So how can I expect him to?

You know all those books on men being from mars & women from venus? Are we really all so typical? If it was so easy to manage / predict behaviour surely no one would ever split up?

So I had words with this guy when I discovered hed been economical with the truth re several important aspects of his life. His reasoning was its early days and he didnt want to reveal too much of himself till he was certain he could trust me.

I on the other hand as usual was as transparant as always. (It always leaves me feeling a little foolish when this happens)but frankly I like who I am too much to want to change ... am I a fool or are you/is he?

I did try and see it from his point of view but couldnt, because how on earth will we get to know each other if we keep stuff hidden about ourselves.
If like me you have been burned is the answer to shut yourself off from hurt?

Wont you also shut yourself off from love?
Because someone in your past hurt you is it right to lie today? Again I think not.

My phone is still ringing... Im still not picking it up :D! And hell thats a lot different from before .