I know , I know..
I'm talking love in the time of e hook ups... tsk...I've witnessed more unhappy marriages than any other kind, experienced volatile relationships and really by now... should be at eye rolling stage...
I am also constantly being accused of wearing rose colored glasses..(give me that over cynical ANYDAY)/ I have also seen (admittedly fewer) rock solid relationships that have gone the distance... withstanding the gamut of potential hazards ranging from economic crises to kids to conflicting career schedules to the daily tedious trials and tribulations,
However there are times in life... when random circumstances , near strangers can force you to stop and think... really question your beliefs...
I walked into a store today... and the lady complimented my Latin inscriptions &; asked me what they meant... when I explained that one means "She flies with her own wings" , her eyes widened &; I could tell she totally connected with that... she said "As a single woman, today I TOTALLY get that one and love it.."
Then ...
I explained the other inscription reads " Love conquers all things"... she looked thoughtful for a second and then said... "Does it"?
Mom at this point jumps in (in full Doberman mode).. "Not if its going to hurt you it doesn't"... Once I'd distracted her...I thought about what the lady said...and responded... " To me Love in its purest form ... does".
She said" I believe that sometimes as much as you love someone, as much as you give them love, keep giving them love no matter how they treat you....it still doesn't work"...
I said some (hopefully) empathetic & reassuring things ... and left her store...but our conversation is still ringing in my brain... Having Lived and Loved wholeheartedly... ( & knowing full well I will again :)!) I have this to say... Love and relationships are not always synonymous... though ideally of course we'd all love them to be....
You may not choose to remain in a relationship which consistently fails to meet your needs.. but that does not prevent you from loving the person. I believe, love if it exists at the start , never really goes away...it may assume a different hue, a different context but it wont go away...
Do you love someone because they can fulfill your expectations? Was it you who misjudged their ability to do so in the first place? If they have lied, cheated whatever... I maintain that , that is a reflection of their character more than anything else...& I do believe they will pay the price for it. ie losing you...
Ask yourself your true reasons for getting into the relationship... &; staying in it.
I do believe in love a very pure almost idealistic version..... do I think I will be able to practise it in reality myself much less expect it from another? I'm not certain....
What do you believe?
I'm talking love in the time of e hook ups... tsk...I've witnessed more unhappy marriages than any other kind, experienced volatile relationships and really by now... should be at eye rolling stage...
I am also constantly being accused of wearing rose colored glasses..(give me that over cynical ANYDAY)/ I have also seen (admittedly fewer) rock solid relationships that have gone the distance... withstanding the gamut of potential hazards ranging from economic crises to kids to conflicting career schedules to the daily tedious trials and tribulations,
However there are times in life... when random circumstances , near strangers can force you to stop and think... really question your beliefs...
I walked into a store today... and the lady complimented my Latin inscriptions &; asked me what they meant... when I explained that one means "She flies with her own wings" , her eyes widened &; I could tell she totally connected with that... she said "As a single woman, today I TOTALLY get that one and love it.."
Then ...
I explained the other inscription reads " Love conquers all things"... she looked thoughtful for a second and then said... "Does it"?
Mom at this point jumps in (in full Doberman mode).. "Not if its going to hurt you it doesn't"... Once I'd distracted her...I thought about what the lady said...and responded... " To me Love in its purest form ... does".
She said" I believe that sometimes as much as you love someone, as much as you give them love, keep giving them love no matter how they treat you....it still doesn't work"...
I said some (hopefully) empathetic & reassuring things ... and left her store...but our conversation is still ringing in my brain... Having Lived and Loved wholeheartedly... ( & knowing full well I will again :)!) I have this to say... Love and relationships are not always synonymous... though ideally of course we'd all love them to be....
You may not choose to remain in a relationship which consistently fails to meet your needs.. but that does not prevent you from loving the person. I believe, love if it exists at the start , never really goes away...it may assume a different hue, a different context but it wont go away...
Do you love someone because they can fulfill your expectations? Was it you who misjudged their ability to do so in the first place? If they have lied, cheated whatever... I maintain that , that is a reflection of their character more than anything else...& I do believe they will pay the price for it. ie losing you...
Ask yourself your true reasons for getting into the relationship... &; staying in it.
I do believe in love a very pure almost idealistic version..... do I think I will be able to practise it in reality myself much less expect it from another? I'm not certain....
What do you believe?
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